“He said to them, ‘Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.’” vss. 11-12
When this text is read in our worship services it often triggers feelings of guilt. Many followers of Jesus have been divorced and struggle to align their experience with his teachings. Even those who were in abusive relationships wonder if they should have simply endured…others are convinced that by being divorced they’ve fallen from grace. Some church leaders are insistent that marriage is a sacrament and vows can never be broken…becoming divorced means excommunication. Some folks try to explain away Jesus’ words by saying they reflect cultural convictions that no longer have any application. Two truths are important for us to consider: first, divorce is not always a sin, but the breaking of marriage vows is…and that usually happens long before the divorce occurs. Sometime divorce is the best way to bring healing and renewal. Secondly, all the sin that is connected with the break-up of a marriage is covered by God’s all-sufficient grace and love. There is no reason for divorced people to feel guilty for the rest of their lives. Of course divorce is never the first option when difficulties arise…often incredible blessings come to those who remain faithful through troubled times. Strong marriages are the strength of our society…it’s important to do all we can to support them.
Thought for the Day: When might divorce be the best option in a marriage?