Genesis 50:15-18

“‘Say to Joseph: I beg you, forgive the crime of your brothers and the wrong they did in harming you.’ Now therefore please forgive the crime of the servants of the God of your father.” vs. 17

The brothers of Joseph were convinced that once their father died, they would lose their protection, so they made up a story about Jacob’s last wishes. They told Joseph that their father had begged him to forgive the crime of his brothers. Of course there’s no indication that he did any such thing, but it did make for a good story. And it’s probably what Jacob would have desired. Fathers do want their children to live in peace and friendship. 

Last words do have significant power and can cover up all manner of offenses. It’s probably not uncommon for survivors to attribute loving last words to their parents, even if such words were never said. Certainly it’s what most parents would like said in their name–and many loving lies can be well said in such circumstances. They can actually have restorative and reconciling significance. 

It’s important for all to remember that, as we approach the end of life, the words that we say have additional significance to our loved ones. These are the affirmations that we hang on to, and sometimes they can erase some enormous wrongs. Of course it’s best not to wait until the last minute to speak words of love and affection. Sometimes death comes quickly and some important things can be left unsaid. There’s really no point in waiting!

Thought for the Day: What last words have meant the most to me?